Death and Grieving Loss

At some point in our lives, we all experience loss.

Death is a natural aspect of life. At some point, all of us will cross the great divide, and move in to the next experience of our souls. It is the living who grieve the loss.

It is particularly difficult when someone we love dies before "their time." Sudden, unexpected, or tragic deaths seem to be particularly difficult to process.

We all seem to have some sense of things that are "fair" and things that aren't. When someone who is a good person, a loving soul, or especially a child or a loving pet passes, we seem to find those losses especially heart wrenching. When there are unanswered questions regarding their passing, and we can't seem to find closure, or if we perhaps had a difficult or unresolved relationship with the person, the empty feeling inside seems to hang on for awhile.

So how long is long enough? At what point do you know you have grieved long enough?

The answer is different for everyone. For a medium like myself, having the ability to communicate with souls on the other side seems to help me process the loss. Tuning in to my own loved ones on the other side seems more difficult than tuning in to the souls of strangers, so sometimes I still have unanswered questions or pangs of guilt regarding my relationship with some family members or acquaintances. However, I have been given tools for processing my emotions and speaking my truth with loved ones, whether I am able to tune in to their souls and receive direct communication or not.

In my chapter in the upcoming book, The Ancestors Within, Volume 2, I share a tool for resolving issues with missing or flawed ancestors, but the tool can be easily adapted to include anyone on the other side who we desire to chat with. (you can preorder copies from me now!)

The most important thing to remember when you are grieving a loss is that grief takes as long as it takes. However, if you find yourself stuck and unable to enjoy living, some grief counseling or therapy may be in order. Talking to a medium like myself may help. Be sure to find one you resonate with. I am not the only medium out there and I don't insist you talk to me! I believe you will be drawn to the person most compatible with your energy and frequency.

You are not alone!

Seek out help processing your grief. Say what you need to say. If you have unresolved emotions, you need to process and resolve those emotions! Simply saying or writing your feelings as if you were having a conversation with them often assists you in moving on from a loss.

Light a candle or set aside a space to honor the dead. Plant a tree. Place flowers on their grave or some place they loved.

October is a month where there is a lot of energy around death, dying, and all things "spooky" or "other worldly." This is because for centuries it has been thought that the veil between the living and the dead is thin and contact is more likely or possible this month.

Death is not a thing to be feared. We will all face death one day. Life is not guaranteed.

Let us be kind toward those grieving losses of all kinds and send them love as they process their grief.