Be Careful What You Ask For

Normally, my first blog of the month has to do with the themes for the month, but we all know, this is December and the big theme is gift giving, holiday gatherings, and how we feel about those things. A lot of people are really beginning to reconsider this insane compulsion we have with exchanging gifts, so today, I am going to chat about gifts from Spirit.

A lot of people shrink away of asking for things from our Angels. Oh, we don't mind asking for world peace or things that benefit others, but what if we really just need to find a pair of lost head phones?

What is a good ask and what is not?

I knew as a young child that there was something important I was meant to do. I somehow knew that I wanted to be of service. I don't think I consciously said, "please let me be of service to mankind" but it was kind of assumed, coming from a family of ministers. At that time the hows and the whens and the whats were not yet set in stone. Over time my idea of what it meant to be of service changed and evolved into my current work as a psychic, medium and Shamanic healer of the soul.

But I am not specifically here to chat about the big asks. The "what is my purpose and what am I supposed to do" kind of asks.

I am here to chat about the day-to-day asks.

The "please find my head-phones" or the "please give me green lights today" kind of asks.

Recently Spirit has been talking to me about being specific when I make requests.

When I share this message, often my listeners are aghast.

"Isn't that too demanding of Spirit?" they ask.

We are used to saying, "if this be Your Will" or "this or something better" or my favorite, "whatever is in my highest good," which I still stand by in some situations.

Here is an example.

Recently I was on my way to a wedding and it was raining. I don't like asking the weather gods to completely change the weather just to suit my preferences ALL the time. That is a bit selfish. So I just said, "please let it stop raining by 2pm when the wedding is supposed to start. You can let it start raining again right after but I think the couple really want to marry outside."

So I arrived at 1:15. It was drizzling rain but nothing serious. However, within minutes a downpour surprised us all. The seats were wet. The dj's equipment was under a canopy but he was scrambling to wipe down sensitive items. Everyone was hunkered down under umbrellas or inside small outside buildings.

At precisely 2 o'clock it stopped raining. Everyone was running around with paper towels wiping off the seats. The sun came out. The wedding went on, but twenty minutes late.

I realized I should have asked for it to stop at 1 pm to give time to wipe off the seats and get everything back to normal before the bride made her way down the hill to her waiting groom and guests.

I seem to remember on my way home it started raining again.

You may think it is a bit selfish to ask the rain to stop to fit your schedule. I am not saying it works all the time or for everyone. My dad had a gift for shifting weather so maybe I inherited it from him.

My point is, sometimes we give our power away to the "powers that be" or the "Universe" or the "Divine". We say, "oh whatever is in Your Will" and then we accept whatever happens.

I am here to give you permission to ask for what you need. Yes, there are circumstances that come that are fated or out of our control. But what we do control is how we are changed or not changed as a result of those happenings. We control how we feel and react and, to some degree, what we choose to experience and whether we choose to learn or grow or just get bitter or depressed or angry.

Here is a little glitch in the asking process. We can't ask for other people! Well, we can, but whether or not the other person receives is up to their soul and their own free will.

Including our children, our love partners, our parents, etc etc. (There is a back door to creating change for our children, but that is not the subject of this blog.)

When my daughter was young, she mentioned once she wanted to be a nurse. I don't remember my original reaction, but I thought she would be better suited as a police officer or even a mechanic. She loved to work on cars and I have thought since she was eleven she was the reincarnation of Napoleon. Why Napoleon chose to be reincarnated as a single mom, I am not sure, but she has been fearless since she was a child.

I did not think she had it in her soul to care for sick people.

I was wrong.

She was working as a security guard at a local book factory when a machine cut off a worker's finger. My daughter sprung into action. She retrieved the finger, wrapped the wound, and handled the situation. It was that day she decided to change careers. She is not a nurse yet, but she is in the field and her patients love her.

Did she ask to be of service? I really don't think so, at least not consciously. She just knew what made her heart sing.

What makes your heart sing? What activity seems make time stand still? That is it.

Nowadays many young people can say time stands still while playing video games and I cannot say that is their purpose in life. On the one hand I think their brains are inside their heads just melting away and in some sense maybe they are just waiting for the time when their soul will wake up. Like mine did.

So, yes, be careful what you ask for.

Be specific when it comes to what you want.

Recently, in passing, I mentioned it would be nice to have a truck to carry our kayaks rather than trying to tie them up on top of our cars. Less than a month later a truck came into our life and is now a part of our family.

Don't feel guilty for asking for things that make your life easier or better! The spirit allies really do enjoy assisting us!

So what if that thing you asked for doesn't happen? My big ask is that humans would love each other, love the earth, be kind to each other and other fellow inhabitants of the earth and stop fighting but, so far, I have not seen the answer to that one. However, I can be kind. I can let someone in front of me in traffic or in line at the grocery store. I can pick up trash that isn't mine. I may not be able to change everyone into loving humans, but I can be a loving human.

Every day I send the Angels out to protect the family, but a couple of weeks ago one of our family members joined the Angels much too young. Some events have no explanation. I don't know if my family member was under a soul contract to leave life early or if even the Angels were surprised.

I don't know.

But I still send the Angels out to do mundance tasks like green lights and big ones like protecting the family. And I think they are okay with it.

My granddaughter still struggles with math, but she is getting better. (I asked an Angel be assigned to her while she is in school to specifically help her with her studies.)

Anything I mail has been arriving at its destination in record time despite the national problems with the Post Office (yes I assigned an Angel to get my mail to its destination as quickly as possible.)

I really don't think we are destined to struggle. Help is available to us. We just often forget to ask or we think our needs are too trivial to bother the Angels.

I still have not found my head phones.

Keep asking. For the big things and the small.

So, yes, be specific. And don't be surprised when that thing you asked for, even in passing, shows up.